Thursday, December 25, 2008

How To Love

First
Say it. When you say the words "I Love You," do they carry it with them the desire to show someone you love them or do they carry it with them is it what you want to feel? And when you say it make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person

Second
Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, try to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are; and realize how they could also love you back just as well.

Third
Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.

Forth
Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for loving's sake. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.

Fifth
Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love.

13 comments:

Witty Angel said...

Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for loving's sake. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.>>>xsuke yg ni..hehe

Wahidah said...

witty angel : I pun tk ske gk part ni..but its true..:) expect nothing in return....

khairul onggon said...

Part tu la yg paling susah nak ikut.. byk yg kantoi part ni.. Berhati2lah..

miss juju said...

hang c0py katner tu? kuikuikui

Wahidah said...

khairul onggon : tu la pesal..thats love..:)

juju : aderla dr sumebr2 yg bole dipercayai..huhuhu

CAHAYA said...

5th: Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love.

Tak suka. Memang la boleh hilang. But, I'm not ready. :(

KhaLifah feDi said...

emm terkdg tue tak semestinya leh dipraktikan kan..tapi oklah..cinta mmg unik tapi indah..
hehehhe
"just be frined be 4 love"

Zaidon said...

hai..salam kenal.. I love cokelat ..haha

en_me said...

hi akak wahidah yusop ittewww.. chinta tak semestinyerr bersatewww.. kannns

Wahidah said...

cahaya : tp itulah hakikatnyaaa....walau perit kena gk terimaaa

khalifah : mmg la tk sumer bole praktikkan pun..mn yg bole di praktikkan..praktikkan la..:P

Wahidah said...

zaidon : suke cokelat gk eik??? hehehe..sama laa..:)

en_me : mmg btol pun..cinta tak semestinya bersatuuu

axim said...

this is good!!thanks !!

Wahidah said...

axim : welcomeeeeeeeeeeeeee